Confidence is Key

"Always remember... Rumors are carried by haters, spread by fools, and accepted by idiots."

-Ziad K. Abdelnour

Confidence in individuals is easy to spot.  It is displayed in the way they act, the way they stand, and even how they dress.  The effort they put into their appearance and their desire to stand out from the pack speaks volumes.  They are in control of their surroundings and exude confidence.  People are naturally drawn to confident individuals.

Confidence is a huge factor in developing strong self esteem.  Being confident helps us discover who we are and create our unique identities.  It is confidence that lets us display our true personality to the world.  It allows us to look past trying to be cool and instead focus on being ourselves.  Those who hide under fake personas will never be as happy as those who are true to themselves.  Most people are comfortable with their closest friends.  Confident people are at ease with everyone.  

Confidence keeps rumors and hate from getting to us.  It helps us focus on our own self worth, rather than worrying about how others perceive us.  It is insecure people who hate on others in order to raise themselves.  Don’t step down to their level, be confident. 

Assume the Best

Outlook is everything, and changing our opinion on how we view day to day things has great positives.  Our ability to look at things in a positive manner has great importance on our ability to live a happy life.  If we are constantly complaining about problems in a very negative manner, we are hindering our ability to see improvements.  A good example of this is in social situations.  If you say “hi” to someone and they don’t respond, how do you perceive it?  Did the person not hear you, or does the person not like you? Looking at it in a positive manner rather than a negative one makes the difference.  Make an assumption to look at it in a positive manner.  Changing your outlook takes the blame off you and in effect you will be a more confident person socially, because you won't fear rejection.  As a result, you will become a more happy and social person.  

Why We Should Be Optimistic

"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty."

 -Winston Churchill

Why be optimistic? Optimism gives you the hope that your ideas will work.  It is this positive hope, optimism, that brings favorable change to our world.  Optimism is a way of life when you pay most attention to the opportunities in a situation. Optimism, along with confidence, are two very important character traits.  I believe it is optimism that works to make us successful.  It makes us go after far fetched goals and try our best to accomplish them. Being optimistic makes us happier because we think more positively about situations and worry less about possible bad outcomes. When life gets hard, or when you face adversity, it is this optimistic outlook that allows you to retain emotional stability.  Optimism helps you not to regret actions and decisions, and instead be confidently satisfied with them.  When you project optimism it will make a better you and a better world.  Nobody wants to hear a doubter, a complainer, or the one that is "burt" on life.  Don't be that person.  Make a difference, be optimistic.

"Pessimists are usually right and optimists are usually wrong but all the great changes have been accomplished by optimists."

-Thomas L. Friedman

Don't Hate, Appreciate

Don't hate, appreciate. It's simple; learn to like people for who they are.  At a minimum learn to tolerate them.  I am grateful I live by this motto because it has made me a happier individual.  It's foolish to go out of your way to complain about how others look or act.  For say, "Her dress is so ugly OMG!"  The problem is not her ugly dress; the problem is YOUR negative attitude.  We all have personal problems, and to waste our energy trying to flaunt other people's flaws is stupid.  Spend less time judging other people and instead use that time to improve your character.  The result is a happier and better you.  Also, the less you complain about these weaknesses, the less you will even notice them in others and yourself. Not letting "haters" get to you will make you a more confident person, and being a confident person is great because you should take pride in who you are.

Why We Should Live a Nonchalant and Carefree Lifestyle

The luxury of not caring what people think about you is amazing.  It allows you to live the life you want to live, do the things you want to do, and feel good about it.  The best part is that you create your own unique identity and people will love you for who you are.  There is no need to act "cool."  I find that when people try to put on the "cool" mojo, they are far less funny and sociable, and in consequence are less happy.  The more carefree you are about what others the think of you, the more you are able to achieve your "best self."  It is human instinct to judge, but as humans we are also blessed with the ability to reason and think beyond our impulses.  Our self esteem shouldn't be volatile based upon other people's judgement, but gained through helping others and yourself.

Why Confidence and Optimism are important to me

To satisfy my need to express my opinion and to help others achieve their "best self", it was paramount to make this blog, "Be Confident and Happy, Keys to Happiness."  Currently a sophomore in high school, making this blog is a new outlet for me, a place to communicate my ideas, thoughts, and opinions.  

I have found the qualities confidence and optimism to be the keys to happiness.  I pride myself on these qualities, and try to applying them on a daily basis.  Confidence is important because it makes me self assured and assertive, and I rarely regret and worry about past decisions.  Optimism continues that same quality as being forward thinking, but also introduces the philosophy of approaching new ideas and situations with a positive mindset.  It is evident that these qualities make a more successful individual in society, one who is self actualizing and has a great sense of self worth.  This blog was motivated by my want to exemplify these values.

Confidence and optimism play a prodigious role in my life today.  As a high school student, homework, grades, sports, family, and high expectations from both myself, peers, and parents all amount to large stresses as a teenager.  If it was not for my optimistic mindset, I am compelled to think that these strainers would be far too much to handle.  I attribute my optimism from my overall calm and relaxed personality I retain during stressful situations, as well as from my church with always serves as an out let for me to express my problems to.  Reducing the stress in my life has made me able to have a vividly bright outlook on my future, and the optimism to know that it is obtainable.  Confidence has played huge for me as I am always able to speak my mind.  Whether for conversation or for input and advice, I feel free to say whatever without regret, and feel joyful doing so.

On this blog I will share thoughts and know-how illustrating how to be a optimistic, confident, and happy individual.  Please enjoy!